God's Call to Agreement
A Call to Action Pt 3
Bud Wrenn 5.15.11
a·ban·don n. 1. Unbounded enthusiasm; exuberance. 2. A complete surrender of inhibitions.
John 21:7 Then the disciple whom Jesus loved said to Peter, "It is the Lord!" When Simon Peter heard that it was the Lord, he put on his tunic (for he had stripped for work), jumped into the water, and swam ashore.
John 21:12-14 (NLT) 12 “Now come and have some breakfast!” Jesus said. None of the disciples dared to ask him, “Who are you?” They knew it was the Lord. 13 Then Jesus served them the bread and the fish. 14 This was the third time Jesus had appeared to his disciples since he had been raised from the dead.
Keys to a life of AGREEMENT:
I. Rapid resolution of conflict.
The truth about conflict:
a) It is a natural outgrowth of relationships.
Ephes. 4:2 Be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other's faults because of your love.
Ephes. 4:3 … keep yourselves united in the Holy Spirit, and bind yourselves together with peace.
To be patient with one another is to ….
a) exercise honesty,
b) show kindness continuously, and
c) communicate, communicate, communicate!
b) It can hold you in bondage if allowed to linger.
Ephes. 4:26 And "don't sin by letting anger gain control over you." …
c) It must be handled in the short-term.
Ephes. 4:26 …. Don't let the sun go down while you are still angry,
d) It must be handled directly.
Ephes. 4:25 So put away all falsehood and "tell your neighbor the truth" because we belong to each other.
e) It must be handled lovingly.
Ephes. 4:29 Don't use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.
II. Understanding Conflict Management Types
1) Avoider - Avoids quality relationships in order to avoid conflict.
2) Instigator - will hurt their, and others' relationships, in order to satisfy their own needs & insecurities, i.e. definition of politics.
James 4:1-3 What is causing the quarrels and fights among you….You are jealous for what others have, and you can't possess it, so you fight and quarrel to take it away from them. And yet the reason you don't have what you want is that you don't ask God for it. [3] And even when you do ask, you don't get it because your whole motive is wrong….
3) Resolver – Effective at conflict resolution.
Healthy Conflict – Passionate debate around issues that really matter.
Matthew 5:9 "You're blessed when you can show people how to cooperate instead of compete or fight. That's when you discover who you really are, and your place in God's family. (Msg)
Commitment / Conclusion
Which of the three conflict types are you?
What relational conflicts are in your life right now?
What is the affect on you?
What is one conflict you can resolve this week?
The Goal of ....
...the Avoider is Artificial Harmony
...the Instigator is Tension.
...the Resolver is Authenticity.
A “Summer Action Plan”
Name:____________________
1) What are your greatest fears that may be holding you back from being ready to moving ahead on the journey?
2) Which ones are good fears and which are bad fears?
3) How can you move through one of those bad fears this summer?
4) Which of the three conflict types are you - Avoider, Producer, or Resolver? Why?
5) What is one conflict you can resolve this week?
6) What is one other conflict you can resolve over this summer?
John 21:1-13
Later Jesus appeared again to the disciples beside the Sea of Galilee. This is how it happened. [2] Several of the disciples were there—Simon Peter, Thomas (nicknamed the Twin), Nathanael from Cana in Galilee, the sons of Zebedee, and two other disciples.
[3] Simon Peter said, "I'm going fishing."
"We'll come, too," they all said. So they went out in the boat, but they caught nothing all night.
[4] At dawn the disciples saw Jesus standing on the beach, but they couldn't see who he was. [5] He called out, "Friends, have you caught any fish?"
"No," they replied.
[6] Then he said, "Throw out your net on the right-hand side of the boat, and you'll get plenty of fish!" So they did, and they couldn't draw in the net because there were so many fish in it.
[7] Then the disciple whom Jesus loved said to Peter, "It is the Lord!" When Simon Peter heard that it was the Lord, he put on his tunic (for he had stripped for work), jumped into the water, and swam ashore. [8] The others stayed with the boat and pulled the loaded net to the shore, for they were only out about three hundred feet. [9] When they got there, they saw that a charcoal fire was burning and fish were frying over it, and there was bread.
[10] "Bring some of the fish you've just caught," Jesus said. [11] So Simon Peter went aboard and dragged the net to the shore. There were 153 large fish, and yet the net hadn't torn.
[12] "Now come and have some breakfast!" Jesus said. And no one dared ask him if he really was the Lord because they were sure of it. [13] Then Jesus served them the bread and the fish.