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<p class=MsoNormal align=center style='text-align:center;text-autospace:none'><b><span
style='font-size:16.0pt;color:black'>God's Call to Agreement</span></b></p>
<p class=MsoNormal align=center style='text-align:center;text-autospace:none'><b><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:black'>A Call to Action Pt 3</span></b></p>
<p class=MsoNormal align=center style='text-align:center;text-autospace:none'><b><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:black'>Bud Wrenn 5.15.11</span></b></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'> </span></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-top:0in;margin-right:2.5pt;margin-bottom:0in;
margin-left:.2in;margin-bottom:.0001pt;text-indent:-9.8pt;line-height:12.0pt;
text-autospace:none'><b><span style='font-size:12.0pt;color:black'>a·ban·don </span></b><i><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:black'>n.</span></i><b><span style='font-size:
12.0pt;color:black'> 1.</span></b><span style='font-size:12.0pt;color:black'>
Unbounded enthusiasm; exuberance.<b> 2.</b> A complete surrender of
inhibitions. </span></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'> </span></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><i><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'>John 21:7 Then the disciple whom Jesus loved said to Peter,
"It is the Lord!" When Simon Peter heard that it was the Lord, he put
on his tunic (for he had stripped for work), jumped into the water, and swam
ashore. </span></i></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-bottom:12.0pt'><i><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'>John 21:12-14 (NLT) </span></i><i><sup><span style='font-size:
12.0pt;color:black'>12 </span></sup></i><i><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'>“Now come and have some breakfast!” Jesus said. None of the
disciples dared to ask him, “Who are you?” They knew it was the Lord. <sup>13 </sup>Then
Jesus served them the bread and the fish. <sup>14 </sup>This was the third time
Jesus had appeared to his disciples since he had been raised from the dead. </span></i></p>
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color:black'> </span></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><b><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'>Keys to a life of AGREEMENT:</span></b></p>
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color:black'> </span></b></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><b><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'>I. Rapid resolution of <i><u>conflict</u></i>. </span></b></p>
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color:black'> </span></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><b><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'>The truth about conflict:</span></b></p>
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color:black'> </span></b></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><b><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'>a) It is a <i><u>natural outgrowth </u></i>of relationships.</span></b></p>
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color:black'> </span></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><i><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'>Ephes. 4:2 Be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other,
making allowance for each other's faults because of your love. </span></i></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><i><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'>Ephes. 4:3 … keep yourselves united in the Holy Spirit, and
bind yourselves together with peace. </span></i></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><b><i><span style='font-size:
12.0pt;color:black'> </span></i></b></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><b><i><span style='font-size:
12.0pt;color:black'>To be <u>patient</u> with one another is to ….</span></i></b></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:.5in;text-indent:-.25in;text-autospace:
none'><b><i><span style='font-size:12.0pt;color:black'>a)<span
style='font:7.0pt "Times New Roman"'> </span></span></i></b><b><i><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:black'>exercise honesty,</span></i></b></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:.5in;text-indent:-.25in;text-autospace:
none'><b><i><span style='font-size:12.0pt;color:black'>b)<span
style='font:7.0pt "Times New Roman"'> </span></span></i></b><b><i><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:black'>show kindness continuously, and </span></i></b></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:.5in;text-indent:-.25in;text-autospace:
none'><b><i><span style='font-size:12.0pt;color:black'>c)<span
style='font:7.0pt "Times New Roman"'> </span></span></i></b><b><i><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:black'>communicate, communicate, communicate!</span></i></b></p>
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color:black'> </span></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><b><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'>b) It can hold you <i><u>in bondage </u></i>if allowed to linger.
</span></b></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><i><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'>Ephes. 4:26 And "don't sin by letting anger gain control
over you." …</span></i></p>
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color:black'> </span></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><b><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'>c) It must be handled in the <i><u>short-term</u></i>.</span></b></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><i><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'>Ephes. 4:26 …. Don't let the sun go down while you are still
angry, </span></i></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><i><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'> </span></i></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><b><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'>d) It must be handled <i><u>directly</u></i>.</span></b></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><i><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'>Ephes. 4:25 So put away all falsehood and "tell your
neighbor the truth" because we belong to each other. </span></i></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><i><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'> </span></i></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><b><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'>e) It must be handled <i><u>lovingly</u></i>.</span></b></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><i><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'>Ephes. 4:29 Don't use foul or abusive language. Let everything
you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to
those who hear them. </span></i></p>
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color:black'> </span></p>
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color:black'> </span></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><b><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'>II. Understanding Conflict Management Types</span></b></p>
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color:black'> </span></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><b><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'>1) <i><u>Avoider</u></i> - Avoids quality relationships in order
to avoid conflict.</span></b></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><b><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'> </span></b></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><b><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'>2) <i><u>Instigator</u></i> - will hurt their, and others'
relationships, in order to satisfy their own needs & insecurities, i.e. definition
of politics.</span></b></p>
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color:black'> </span></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><i><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'>James 4:1-3 What is causing the quarrels and fights among you….You
are jealous for what others have, and you can't possess it, so you fight and
quarrel to take it away from them. And yet the reason you don't have what you
want is that you don't ask God for it. [3] And even when you do ask, you don't
get it because your whole motive is wrong….</span></i></p>
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color:black'> </span></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><b><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'>3) <i><u>Resolver</u></i> – Effective at conflict resolution.</span></b></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><b><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'> </span></b></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><b><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'>Healthy Conflict – Passionate <i><u>debate</u></i> around issues <i><u>that
really matter</u></i>.</span></b></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><i><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'>Matthew 5:9 "You're blessed when you can show people how
to cooperate instead of compete or fight. That's when you discover who you
really are, and your place in God's family. (Msg)</span></i></p>
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color:black'> </span></i></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><b><u><span style='font-size:
12.0pt;color:black'>Commitment / Conclusion</span></u></b></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><b><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'> </span></b></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><b><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'>Which of the three conflict types are you? </span></b></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><b><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'> </span></b></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><b><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'>What relational conflicts are in your life right now? </span></b></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><b><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'> </span></b></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><b><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'>What is the affect on you?</span></b></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><b><span style='font-size:12.0pt;color:black'> </span></b></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><b><span style='font-size:12.0pt;color:black'>What is one
conflict you can resolve this week?</span></b></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><u><span style='font-size:12.0pt;color:black'>The Goal of
....</span></u></b></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><span style='font-size:12.0pt;color:black'>...the Avoider
is Artificial Harmony</span></b></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><b><span style='font-size:12.0pt;color:black'> </span></b></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><b><span style='font-size:12.0pt;color:black'>...the
Instigator is Tension.</span></b></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><span style='font-size:12.0pt;color:black'>...the
Resolver is Authenticity.</span></b></p>
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<h1 align=center style='text-align:center'><span style='font-size:16.0pt;
font-family:"Arial","sans-serif";color:black'>Living a Life of Abandon</span></h1>
<p class=MsoNormal align=center style='text-align:center;text-autospace:none'><span
style='font-size:14.0pt;color:black'>A “Summer Action Plan”</span></p>
<p class=MsoNormal align=center style='text-align:center;text-autospace:none'><span
style='font-size:14.0pt;color:black'>Name:____________________</span></p>
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color:black'> </span></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'>1) What are your greatest fears that may be holding you back from
being ready to moving ahead on the journey?</span></p>
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color:black'> </span></p>
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color:black'> </span></p>
<p class=MsoBodyText2><span style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial","sans-serif";
color:black'>2) Which ones are good fears and which are bad fears?</span></p>
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color:black'> </span></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'> </span></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'>3) How can you move through one of those bad fears this summer?</span></p>
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color:black'> </span></p>
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color:black'> </span></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
color:black'>4) Which of the three conflict types are you - Avoider, Producer,
or Resolver? Why?</span></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><span style='font-size:12.0pt;color:black'> </span></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><span style='font-size:12.0pt;color:black'>5) What is one
conflict you can resolve this week?</span></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><span style='font-size:12.0pt;color:black'>6) What is one
other conflict you can resolve over this summer?</span></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><span style='color:black'>John 21:1-13 </span></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><span style='color:black'> Later Jesus appeared again to
the disciples beside the Sea of Galilee. This is how it happened. [2] Several
of the disciples were there—Simon Peter, Thomas (nicknamed the Twin), Nathanael
from Cana in Galilee, the sons of Zebedee, and two other disciples. </span></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><span style='color:black'> [3] Simon Peter said,
"I'm going fishing."</span></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><span style='color:black'> "We'll come, too,"
they all said. So they went out in the boat, but they caught nothing all night.
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<p class=MsoNormal><span style='color:black'> [4] At dawn the disciples saw
Jesus standing on the beach, but they couldn't see who he was. [5] He called
out, "Friends, have you caught any fish?"</span></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><span style='color:black'> "No," they replied. </span></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><span style='color:black'> [6] Then he said, "Throw
out your net on the right-hand side of the boat, and you'll get plenty of
fish!" So they did, and they couldn't draw in the net because there were
so many fish in it. </span></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><span style='color:black'> [7] Then the disciple whom
Jesus loved said to Peter, "It is the Lord!" When Simon Peter heard
that it was the Lord, he put on his tunic (for he had stripped for work),
jumped into the water, and swam ashore. [8] The others stayed with the boat and
pulled the loaded net to the shore, for they were only out about three hundred
feet. [9] When they got there, they saw that a charcoal fire was burning and
fish were frying over it, and there was bread. </span></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><span style='color:black'> [10] "Bring some of the
fish you've just caught," Jesus said. [11] So Simon Peter went aboard and
dragged the net to the shore. There were 153 large fish, and yet the net hadn't
torn. </span></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><span style='color:black'> [12] "Now come and have
some breakfast!" Jesus said. And no one dared ask him if he really was the
Lord because they were sure of it. [13] Then Jesus served them the bread and
the fish. </span></p>
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